Sekali lagi gue bingung. Mungkin emang gue agak nyolot, tapi gue selalu bingung ama orang yang gak mau kasih tau atau merahasiakan umurnya.
Temen gue yang satu ini ampe menyembunyikan muka dan geleng kepala kenceng2 ampe mau copot pas gue tanya, padahal gue tanyanya udah hati2, padahal kita udah ngomongin segala hal ampe anaknya dan foto2 anaknya dsb dsb.
Emangnya kenapa ya, biar loe gak tau umur gue, loe kan bisa liat muke gue…daripada kayak gitu, kenapa gak ngaku aja? Syukur2 kalo muke loe keliatan lebih muda, feel good kan? Kalo enggak ya udah, so what? Daripada maen rahasia2an, malah ketauan nantinya.
Mumpung mood nyolot gue lagi tinggi, dan gue udah agak lama gak nyolot2an,
jujur aja nih, jujur, emangnya loe pikir monyet mana yang bener2 peduli elo umurnya segini atau segitu?
Gue emang agak kepo kalo soal umur orang, tapi bukan apa2, kalo baru kenal, gue pengen tau posisi gue. Kalo lebih tua, tentunya gue lebih respek, gak becanda yang enggak2, kalo lebih muda, gue juga harus tau diri, gak terlalu kayak bangkotan kegirangan. Itu doang. Sumpah. Sumpah. Gue gak pengen tau umur orang buat nyolot2in, lagian buat apa, kalo lebih tua, gue bakal segitu juga suatu hari, kalo lebih muda, gue udah pernah lewatin.
Tapi mungkin ya, orang merahasiakan umur karena segi sosial. Kayaknya kalo berada diantara anak2 umur dua puluhan, tiga puluh itu udah bangkotan, apalagi diantara anak belasan, bisa dijadikan nenek moyang. Tapi kan yang penting bukan dari segi angka2an…
Belom lama ini gue makan sama dua temen baru gue, cewek dua2nya, satu 18 tahun dan satu 26 tahun. Baru kali itu kita makan bareng, jadi sama sekali belom saling mengenali. Gue ditanyain umur duluan (nah, ada kan yang lebih kepo dari gue) dan menurut mereka berdua gue gak kayak 30 (hahahaha, gak kok, gak lebih tua, maksudnya lebih muda gitu… J), tebakannya agak jauh jadi sebagai manusia biasa apalagi seorang wanita yang baru merayakan ultah 30 belom lama ini, tentunya gue mesem2 aja, seneng doong!
Trus cerita2annya kasak kusuk berlanjut dan mereka tau gue merid, kaget pula gue merid umur 26. Trus yang umur 26 bilang, Aduh! 26 elo udah merid, gue gimana dong, boyfriend belom punya. Yang 18 menghiburnya, gak apa-apa lagih, elo kan masih muda, baru 26. Kalo udah tiga puluh tuh baru tua…..Eh, Ops! Oh IYA..!
Trus dia baru ingat kalo gue sebagai ambassador orang tiga puluh keatas duduk disana dan melotot.
Jadi, moral dari cerita, menurut gue itu bagus kalo dia lupa gue tiga puluh, padahal baru dibilangin, jadi orang tuh benernya gak liat umur kan? Kan?
Emang pengaruh social itu berat ya. Ada pula temen ngantor yang pas ampe hari2 terakhir sebelom cruise gak mau kasih tau tanggal lahir (buat dokumentasi, cek-in deelel) soalnya dia udah empat puluh lebih ternyata, tapi tampangnya masih kayak 37 begitu. Nah, bukannya itu bagus dia keliatan lebih muda dari aslinya? Maen rahasia2an kan bukannya jadi praktis, malah bikin orang jadi kepo dan malah jadi ketauan.
Mungkin dia khawatir juga akan pandangan orang2 karena dia masih single. Cuman ya, kalo dia takut umurnya itu jadi repellant potensial pasangan, emangnya dia gak bakal ngaku suatu hari? Kan lebih riwet gitu…?
Gue juga punya pengalaman umur jadi masalah hehehe…
Gue gak demen chatting kecuali sama temen2 yang gue tau, chatting ama stranger, ogah banget, gak tau mau ngapain. Pertama kali gue chatting di mric atau apaan gitu itu bareng2 orang sekantor lagi bosen gak ada kerjaan di Batam. Jadi caranya gini., eh, mungkin gue gak pantes ngajarin karena gue pasti lebih gak pengalaman. Kalo udah panggilan2, biasanya ditanya n a l, kalo gak salahhhhhhh, name age location. Dulu pas gue bilang 23 waktu itu, laku deh.. hahahaha.. tapi orang chatting nyebelin, waktu itu gue cuman nyoba beberapa kalimat biasanya udah mulai aneh2, jadi males.
Itu pengalaman pertama dan terakhir gue chatting di mric.
Beberapa waktu yang lalu, kadang2 kalo gue iseng gue suka maen Yahoo Games, favorit gue Pool Table atau Yahoo Pool gue gak inget. Jadi gue maen sama beberapa opponent. Yang maen game tujuannya biasanya maen doang, jadi oke2 aja. Trus satu monyet yang udah maen berapa game ama gue nanya sesuatu kayak n a l juga. En gue jawab apa adanya, waktu itu gue 28, hahaha. Kayaknya 28 itu udah bangkotan kali yah, anyway, semua orang kayaknya 13 atau 18. Dia kayaknya shock dan gak bacot2 lagi. Trus lanjutin maen poolnya. Btw, waktu maen pertama, dia komentar gg. Buat gue yang dari pedalaman sono, gue kagak ngerti artinya apa, jadi gue tanya dan dijelasin, gg itu good game. Gethoo.. mungkin dari situ ketauan pula gue ini makhluk purbakala.
Lanjutin maen, keliatan dia mulai gak niat, mungkin nyari opponent laen yang masih 18, huehhehe, anyway, gue gak peduli, gue bisa maen ama opponent laen atau computer, walaupun rese juga karena dia itu opponent yang oke, skillnya lumayan sama dan responnya cepat. Beberapa saat, mungkin habis kasak kusuk nyari yang 18 gak ada, dia balik kirim pesan. I’m sad and lonely. Huh, dasar kuprit. Emang gue siapa. Tapi karena gue baik hati, mungkin nih orang despret beneran mau bunuh diri, gue bela2in tanya. Why?
Trus dijawab, I want to have sex….
%^$^@#^ Kutu kupret bosen idup.
Tuh monyet bikin gue ogah maen online game lagi seumur2. Emang sih gak usah dipeduliin tapi males aja kalo kayak gitu. Kalo mau ngobrol yang jijay-jijay, sono ke tempat laen, ngapain loe nongol di tempat online pool? Atau cari game yang lebih banyak monyet2 happy go lucky sonohhh. Mungkin dia pikir gue bangkotan single and despret. Kalau gue bangkotan single dan despret, ngapain gue maen computer daripada gue keluar dan cari temen? Weeeee’’’’
Mungkin gue nyolot dan gagal melihat, jadi gue masih beranggapan kalau gak ada gunanya menyembunyikan umur. Menurut gue, itu malah membuat orang berpikir2, pasti orang ini bangkot, kalo enggak, buat apa..? Rugi kan kalo gitu..
Auh ah.
Post gue yang sekarang begitu, mungkin aja pas gue 40 nanti gue ngakunya 18…?
Monyet mana yang tau...
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When I was a boy the Dead Sea was only sick.
- George Burns.
The woman who tells her age is either too young to have anything to lose or too old to have anything to gain. (Hmmmmmm...!)
- Chinese Proverb
It’s sad to grow old, but nice to ripen.
- Brigitte Bardot
An actress I knew – when I filmed with her, I was thirty-one and she was thirty six. Today, I am forty and she’s still only thirty-seven.
- Tony Curtis
I absolutely refuse to reveal my age. Why am I - a car?
- Cyndie Lauper
Youth is a religion from which one always ends up being converted.
- Andre Malraux
Old age is like a plane flying through a storm. Once you’re abroad there’s nothing you can do.
- Golda Meir
Old age is an incurable disease.
- Seneca
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Tuesday, July 24, 2007
Monday, July 23, 2007
LET'S!
LET'S!
As munch as I want to start this week with happy posting. I got to say, life is indeed sucks. Sucks and unfair and cruel. I’m not speaking for my behalf; I have a great one and always remind myself to treasure it, especially when I see it from another person’s eyes.
Meeting new friends has opened my eyes wider.
It’s amazing to meet different kind of people in the world. Come from different background, different life style and different story.
I have a lot of friends with similar life background with me, we study, we play. Ordinary life and ordinary family. To think of it, it’s actually a very great thing to be grateful to. As a student, we don’t need to worry about our education in the past, how to make the ends meet, although we were not rich, we were okay.
The very first encounter maybe is with this guy who came from a broken home and had been independent since he was young. Under many circumstances, because he was working with us and we considered him as family, he stayed with us. He is very nice, he is very kind, but perhaps from personality or shaped from his background, he had a terrible temper. I’ve known him since he was 25 and I was 12, and I always regarded him as a brother. Little did I know, and I was naïve too, that he meant something more. So when my guy friends visited me at home, just ordinary visit from classmates, he was so agitated that he returned me back all my pictures which I don’t know how he got hold of them and announced that he wanted to break up. Huh? When did we actually become couple at the first place? He quitted working and disappeared for a few days. I was worried, I was sad, but I kind of very pissed off. It was too childish for my thinking even though I was only 17. Hypothetically put, even if I was his girlfriend, so what? Is that mean I can’t talk to other guys as long as I live?
But it was a breakthrough, I was glad it happened because it made me realize how was my position and I thought that should be the end. But sadly, no. He only gave up another five years later.
Another encounter with other side of life is from a guy who called me often during my Uni time. He got my number from my friend I guess, although I’m not sure why my friend would disclose it to a stranger. He asked whether he could be my phone pal, he called me on weekends when I was at home. I came to know that he was kind of ‘gangster’, he became homeless one time and another, dropped out because he had conflict with school, get involved in fights and whatever thing unfamiliar with my ears etc. I was maybe kind of his place to tell his tale, and I don’t know why it has to be like that. The good thing was, we were only phone pal. I don’t know how he is now.
I met this kid, kid, hehehe..two years younger than me when we were going to Rock Climbing Expedition trip in Bandung. We opened up this activity to public, and this kid from Boedoet joined us. See, for my school which so called ordinary respectable school producing students who listen to teachers and do home work regularly, or even between my Uni friends, many of us came from ‘proper’ school. Boedoet is a very famous school for their graffiti; they decorated the landscape of Jakarta with their school name with colorful spray paints, everywhere, under the bridge, on the wall, whatever walls. Anyone in my generation should know Boedoet and their reputation in getting involved in school fights or gang fights.
However, this kid, I don’t know whether because he respected my organization or respected my friends who most of them were males had these very garang faces, or maybe because he indeed a good kid, or maybe actually Boedoet was different with my imagination, he was none I thought a Boedoet-an would be. He was nice, a very gentlemen person and an excellent rock climber. So, we should never judge I guess.
I also felt detached from my ‘proper’ school background when Hubby had reunion with his high school friend. So four of us, with the wife and me, shared stories of the past. And three of them were actually the trouble makers in school. From fighting with principal to whatever thing I could imagine, I enjoyed the stories but was wondering how fun it was if I had done the same. Mhaha…the craziest thing I did was marching into the administration office and demanded an explanation about some costs that we had paid but we had never received and kicked out the foundation of teacher’s tent when we went out for camping trip, but it was nothing. I felt like a nerdest kind of nerd listening to their stories.
When I worked in Batam, I met more people who had gone through crazier life than me, One went by himself to other side of Java while he was a teenager, hitchhiking along the way and survived by washing dishes to get food.
When I actived in my cyber writing community, I found more shocking and crazy reality that life is bad, life is tough. What you see in movie, reality sometimes can be worse and unimaginable.
Now I meet new friends in class, and I’m fascinated with some of their story of life and workplace. One just shared another story that makes me really sad and thinking hard. He once had a very high profile job, but then he had to give it up because he had some medical condition, which is actually completely acceptable for him to continue his job. But it seemed like it’s so easy for people to abandon fellow human just because of some condition, his license to fly was revoked. He had to turn over his life, let go his education, passion and dreams for a cause that shouldn’t be valid.
So I said, life is cruel and unfair. Human are narrow-minded and selfish.
I also learned this from another friend whose everyday life is to deal with unfortunate and abused children.
If you need more, read everyday’s newspaper. It’s maddening.
I got to say, I am a grateful person, but I haven’t felt this grateful for so long.
So, I should dedicate this for friends of mine who are always looking up and unhappy about themselves, their job and their life. Because countless, countless time we disregard ourselves and forget about what we have and what we should feel grateful for.
They say, the good way to make a person grateful with what they have, is to take it away from them. But don’t let be that way, because it really sucks.
Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.
- Soren Aabye Kierkegaard
Not only is life a bitch, it has puppies.
- Adrienne Gusoff.
Time is a great teacher. Unfortunately it kills all its pupils.
- Hector Berlioz
Why is it that we rejoice at a birth and grieve at a funeral? It is because we are not the person involved.
- Mark Twain
.
As munch as I want to start this week with happy posting. I got to say, life is indeed sucks. Sucks and unfair and cruel. I’m not speaking for my behalf; I have a great one and always remind myself to treasure it, especially when I see it from another person’s eyes.
Meeting new friends has opened my eyes wider.
It’s amazing to meet different kind of people in the world. Come from different background, different life style and different story.
I have a lot of friends with similar life background with me, we study, we play. Ordinary life and ordinary family. To think of it, it’s actually a very great thing to be grateful to. As a student, we don’t need to worry about our education in the past, how to make the ends meet, although we were not rich, we were okay.
The very first encounter maybe is with this guy who came from a broken home and had been independent since he was young. Under many circumstances, because he was working with us and we considered him as family, he stayed with us. He is very nice, he is very kind, but perhaps from personality or shaped from his background, he had a terrible temper. I’ve known him since he was 25 and I was 12, and I always regarded him as a brother. Little did I know, and I was naïve too, that he meant something more. So when my guy friends visited me at home, just ordinary visit from classmates, he was so agitated that he returned me back all my pictures which I don’t know how he got hold of them and announced that he wanted to break up. Huh? When did we actually become couple at the first place? He quitted working and disappeared for a few days. I was worried, I was sad, but I kind of very pissed off. It was too childish for my thinking even though I was only 17. Hypothetically put, even if I was his girlfriend, so what? Is that mean I can’t talk to other guys as long as I live?
But it was a breakthrough, I was glad it happened because it made me realize how was my position and I thought that should be the end. But sadly, no. He only gave up another five years later.
Another encounter with other side of life is from a guy who called me often during my Uni time. He got my number from my friend I guess, although I’m not sure why my friend would disclose it to a stranger. He asked whether he could be my phone pal, he called me on weekends when I was at home. I came to know that he was kind of ‘gangster’, he became homeless one time and another, dropped out because he had conflict with school, get involved in fights and whatever thing unfamiliar with my ears etc. I was maybe kind of his place to tell his tale, and I don’t know why it has to be like that. The good thing was, we were only phone pal. I don’t know how he is now.
I met this kid, kid, hehehe..two years younger than me when we were going to Rock Climbing Expedition trip in Bandung. We opened up this activity to public, and this kid from Boedoet joined us. See, for my school which so called ordinary respectable school producing students who listen to teachers and do home work regularly, or even between my Uni friends, many of us came from ‘proper’ school. Boedoet is a very famous school for their graffiti; they decorated the landscape of Jakarta with their school name with colorful spray paints, everywhere, under the bridge, on the wall, whatever walls. Anyone in my generation should know Boedoet and their reputation in getting involved in school fights or gang fights.
However, this kid, I don’t know whether because he respected my organization or respected my friends who most of them were males had these very garang faces, or maybe because he indeed a good kid, or maybe actually Boedoet was different with my imagination, he was none I thought a Boedoet-an would be. He was nice, a very gentlemen person and an excellent rock climber. So, we should never judge I guess.
I also felt detached from my ‘proper’ school background when Hubby had reunion with his high school friend. So four of us, with the wife and me, shared stories of the past. And three of them were actually the trouble makers in school. From fighting with principal to whatever thing I could imagine, I enjoyed the stories but was wondering how fun it was if I had done the same. Mhaha…the craziest thing I did was marching into the administration office and demanded an explanation about some costs that we had paid but we had never received and kicked out the foundation of teacher’s tent when we went out for camping trip, but it was nothing. I felt like a nerdest kind of nerd listening to their stories.
When I worked in Batam, I met more people who had gone through crazier life than me, One went by himself to other side of Java while he was a teenager, hitchhiking along the way and survived by washing dishes to get food.
When I actived in my cyber writing community, I found more shocking and crazy reality that life is bad, life is tough. What you see in movie, reality sometimes can be worse and unimaginable.
Now I meet new friends in class, and I’m fascinated with some of their story of life and workplace. One just shared another story that makes me really sad and thinking hard. He once had a very high profile job, but then he had to give it up because he had some medical condition, which is actually completely acceptable for him to continue his job. But it seemed like it’s so easy for people to abandon fellow human just because of some condition, his license to fly was revoked. He had to turn over his life, let go his education, passion and dreams for a cause that shouldn’t be valid.
So I said, life is cruel and unfair. Human are narrow-minded and selfish.
I also learned this from another friend whose everyday life is to deal with unfortunate and abused children.
If you need more, read everyday’s newspaper. It’s maddening.
I got to say, I am a grateful person, but I haven’t felt this grateful for so long.
So, I should dedicate this for friends of mine who are always looking up and unhappy about themselves, their job and their life. Because countless, countless time we disregard ourselves and forget about what we have and what we should feel grateful for.
They say, the good way to make a person grateful with what they have, is to take it away from them. But don’t let be that way, because it really sucks.
Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.
- Soren Aabye Kierkegaard
Not only is life a bitch, it has puppies.
- Adrienne Gusoff.
Time is a great teacher. Unfortunately it kills all its pupils.
- Hector Berlioz
Why is it that we rejoice at a birth and grieve at a funeral? It is because we are not the person involved.
- Mark Twain
.
Friday, July 20, 2007
Happy Kakis
Hai, I’ve been neglecting twinging for a while.
It has been crazy time full of medical treatment for me, although in fact, I’m very okay.
I’ve visited Chiropractic four times, and there is still one more visit to go to treat my back pain, I prefer to say it is caused by sport injury. He…
I went to dentist to do scaling and end up tooth filing for three teeth and two more to go, minor but not minor for the pocket.
I visit general doctor twice in a week, different reason. But nothing serious, just cautious and prevention.
Dooh!
It’s also crazy time because every hefty bill is coming, income tax, insurance, insurance, insurance.
To add to the whole pain, and to kill the pain also, I’m counting down to visit Menado again. Seven days eighteen hours and thirty three minutes to go. This time we decide to go for a short tiny trip to ease up the stress from work and to cure the withdrawal cause of lack of sea water.
It was also hectic week for my Microsoft Office and my brain cell; I got a week full of stress preparing for my exam and another week to type my assignment, printed out two hours ago. It’s damn difficult because : I hate the subject, it’s too idealistic that it made me sad. But it’s over, for now. Tonight, another subject. I also do some typing and revision to be able to send a writing work for a competition. From the encouragements of friends, and especially, my good friend Lisa who always update me and inform me everytime there is a writing competition, but I always ignore it because I’m lazy. Now I decide to write, eh, no, I dug up my old dusty files, two years ago, when I active in writing, picked a work that is quite okay and decided to try. To write new stories, I have no idea and mood to start.
Anyway I have few happy friends. We decided, if any of us ever get sad, we will eat ice cream or chocolate as punishment, but the one who is sad would have to pay. So, for the sake of wallet, there is no other choice than to be always happy..
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I think it's wrong that only one company makes the game Monopoly.
- Steven Wright
I can handle pain until it hurts.
- Anonymous
I want to tell you a terrific story about oral contraception. I asked this girl to sleep with me and she said 'No'.
- Woody Allen
To avoid delay, please have all your symptoms ready.
- Anonymous - Notice in an English doctor's waiting room.
If the facts don't fit the theory, change the facts.
- Albert Einstein
Do you suppose I could buy back my introduction to you?
- Groucho Marx
It has been crazy time full of medical treatment for me, although in fact, I’m very okay.
I’ve visited Chiropractic four times, and there is still one more visit to go to treat my back pain, I prefer to say it is caused by sport injury. He…
I went to dentist to do scaling and end up tooth filing for three teeth and two more to go, minor but not minor for the pocket.
I visit general doctor twice in a week, different reason. But nothing serious, just cautious and prevention.
Dooh!
It’s also crazy time because every hefty bill is coming, income tax, insurance, insurance, insurance.
To add to the whole pain, and to kill the pain also, I’m counting down to visit Menado again. Seven days eighteen hours and thirty three minutes to go. This time we decide to go for a short tiny trip to ease up the stress from work and to cure the withdrawal cause of lack of sea water.
It was also hectic week for my Microsoft Office and my brain cell; I got a week full of stress preparing for my exam and another week to type my assignment, printed out two hours ago. It’s damn difficult because : I hate the subject, it’s too idealistic that it made me sad. But it’s over, for now. Tonight, another subject. I also do some typing and revision to be able to send a writing work for a competition. From the encouragements of friends, and especially, my good friend Lisa who always update me and inform me everytime there is a writing competition, but I always ignore it because I’m lazy. Now I decide to write, eh, no, I dug up my old dusty files, two years ago, when I active in writing, picked a work that is quite okay and decided to try. To write new stories, I have no idea and mood to start.
Anyway I have few happy friends. We decided, if any of us ever get sad, we will eat ice cream or chocolate as punishment, but the one who is sad would have to pay. So, for the sake of wallet, there is no other choice than to be always happy..
__________________________________________________________________
I think it's wrong that only one company makes the game Monopoly.
- Steven Wright
I can handle pain until it hurts.
- Anonymous
I want to tell you a terrific story about oral contraception. I asked this girl to sleep with me and she said 'No'.
- Woody Allen
To avoid delay, please have all your symptoms ready.
- Anonymous - Notice in an English doctor's waiting room.
If the facts don't fit the theory, change the facts.
- Albert Einstein
Do you suppose I could buy back my introduction to you?
- Groucho Marx
Monday, July 09, 2007
Weekend Sto-
Monday is here again. But lately, Monday doesn’t taste that bad. It’s still bluish, but it’s better shade of blue. Apa coba..
Friday night I had outing with colleagues. Since Hubby also played RC with his friends, I joined the outing. Anyway, feel bad to decline some offer again.
During my years working here, I hardly joined any activities involved people from works. Let it be outings, parties, company functions formal or informal etc. And actually, I hardly go out for nightlife. The closest I have been too was joining Diver’s Night, usually held at Hard Rock Café, the last time I went I swore I wouldn’t want to go again, because it’s too crowded and not fun. We couldn’t find a place to sit and when we wanted to have dinner upstair as regular customer, HRC insisted that anyone came in registered as part of Diver’s Night are to stay at the dance floor. It’s ridiculous; we wanted to sit, to eat, what’s the diff? Unless we wanted to sit for free, unless there’s an entrance fee we didn’t pay. Some rules are plain idiocy related.
The other time when we had similar function, it was held in a pub nearby other pubs (which doesn’t?), it was terrible. The place stunk with alcohol smell and smoke. The pool table was not better than mine. So we escaped to the outdoor and drank coke.
So when my colleague said that the place is different, there is live music with cozy environment. It’s a non-smoking lounge; anyway, smoking has been banned by government. It sounded like good idea, I enjoy good live music and cozy environment, somewhere to relax and socialize.
It was not a bad night; the music was quite good although the place was a bit cramp. I felt quite out of place because other group dressed differently, I guess many people hung out there in order to find potential company. But we just sat down, relaxed and enjoyed.
Singapore, It’s getting very boring here. Not being ungrateful, but it’s difficult now to decide where to go on weekends. Going to mall is almost the only repeatedable option and it’s getting unrepeatable because everywhere is selling the same stuffs. We used to be more adventurous, went cycling at Pulau Ubin and East Coast, but it’s slipping away from our agenda. Friend who likes to take us sailing is often not in Singapore, and we cut off all our weekend diving to save money for better overseas trip. My regular swimming complex is closed down for renovation, and we have left the Underwater Hockey activities too long to conveniently rejoin.
And the weather has been unfriendly nowadays, it’s super hot and super humid, so the idea to stay at home is much more appealing.
But we went out to catch unintended movie marathon on Saturday, and accompany Mom to go shopping on Sunday, while visiting the old church I used to go.
Lately I also have some bad habit not to finish the thing I have sta -
.
Friday night I had outing with colleagues. Since Hubby also played RC with his friends, I joined the outing. Anyway, feel bad to decline some offer again.
During my years working here, I hardly joined any activities involved people from works. Let it be outings, parties, company functions formal or informal etc. And actually, I hardly go out for nightlife. The closest I have been too was joining Diver’s Night, usually held at Hard Rock Café, the last time I went I swore I wouldn’t want to go again, because it’s too crowded and not fun. We couldn’t find a place to sit and when we wanted to have dinner upstair as regular customer, HRC insisted that anyone came in registered as part of Diver’s Night are to stay at the dance floor. It’s ridiculous; we wanted to sit, to eat, what’s the diff? Unless we wanted to sit for free, unless there’s an entrance fee we didn’t pay. Some rules are plain idiocy related.
The other time when we had similar function, it was held in a pub nearby other pubs (which doesn’t?), it was terrible. The place stunk with alcohol smell and smoke. The pool table was not better than mine. So we escaped to the outdoor and drank coke.
So when my colleague said that the place is different, there is live music with cozy environment. It’s a non-smoking lounge; anyway, smoking has been banned by government. It sounded like good idea, I enjoy good live music and cozy environment, somewhere to relax and socialize.
It was not a bad night; the music was quite good although the place was a bit cramp. I felt quite out of place because other group dressed differently, I guess many people hung out there in order to find potential company. But we just sat down, relaxed and enjoyed.
Singapore, It’s getting very boring here. Not being ungrateful, but it’s difficult now to decide where to go on weekends. Going to mall is almost the only repeatedable option and it’s getting unrepeatable because everywhere is selling the same stuffs. We used to be more adventurous, went cycling at Pulau Ubin and East Coast, but it’s slipping away from our agenda. Friend who likes to take us sailing is often not in Singapore, and we cut off all our weekend diving to save money for better overseas trip. My regular swimming complex is closed down for renovation, and we have left the Underwater Hockey activities too long to conveniently rejoin.
And the weather has been unfriendly nowadays, it’s super hot and super humid, so the idea to stay at home is much more appealing.
But we went out to catch unintended movie marathon on Saturday, and accompany Mom to go shopping on Sunday, while visiting the old church I used to go.
Lately I also have some bad habit not to finish the thing I have sta -
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Tuesday, July 03, 2007
Sepatu Orang Laen Susah Dipake
Ternyata (ternyata!) susah ya yang namanya ‘menempatkan diri di sepatu orang laen’ alias mencoba merasakan apa yang dialami orang tersebut sebelom menilai atau menghakimi.
Masalah popular orang-orang seumuran gue yang masih menggantung-gantung di jembatan sekitar Tiga Puluh rata2 nyaris2 sama, Kerjaan, Kawin dan Anak.
Gue banyak menemui kalo ternyata sekarang banyak konsep baru soal kawin, gak jauh2, dari kalangan orang2 yang gue kenal.
Kawin? Ogah.
Kenapa? Ada berbagai alasan.
Ada satu yang sangat gue setujui. Ngapain kawin kalo belom ketemu orang yang cocok, atau yang sesuai dengan apa yang kita dambakan?
Sering kali gue denger, sering banget malah, kalo ada orang yang bilang,” Udahh...loe aja yang terlalu pemilih. Gak usah terlalu cerewet..bla blah..”
Tapi kenapa gak boleh cerewet? Justru menurut gue aneh juga orang yang gak cerewet kalo milih pasangan. Tuh mahluk bakalan nongol di samping loe ampe bertahun-tahun kedepan, saweran nasi, bagi2 senyum dan air mata. Kalo orangnya gak cocok, kan penderitaan seumur hidup namanya toh! Apa salahnya hati2..tul gak..
Dari orang-orang, gue dapet banyak alasan, ada yang bilang mau nyari pasangan yang gak keberatan dia berbakti sama orang tua, ada pula yang bilang mau nyari pasangan yang enak diliat dsb dsb. Alasan2nya emang ada yang sangat masuk akal, ada pula yang bisa diperdebatkan. Tapi semua itu balik ke “Mau-mau gue..yang kawin gue...”
Ada pula yang bilang, kapok. Semua cewek yang gue ketemuin ngincernya duit gue doang. Mendingan gue membujang seumur-umur. Emang sih kasihan nih merek satu kalo gak ada yang bermutu dari dia selaen duit, atau mutu2 yang ada tertutup sama duit-duitan.
Ada pula cewek yang bilang semua cowok tengik. Tapi sejauh ini gue belom pernah ketemu cewek yang give up kawin atau berniat give up kawin, sejauh ini ketemunya cowok2 melulu, sebrengsek itukah kaum kita ampe disumpahin putus seumur-umuran? Hehehe...
Alasan laen, ada yang bilang, gak butuh, ngerepotin aja, nambah2in pikiran, atau punya cewek susah maintainnya, kudu nelpon, kudu ingat tanggal2 ajaib, kudu ngeraya-rayain hari2 gak jelas, pokoknya punya cewek menuntut semua energi jiwa dan raga dan pengennya dicurahkan buat membangun karir. Kalo yang kayak gitu, gue sih mikirnya belom kaliiii..belom kena cubit Cupid beneran, kalo udah kena, kata orang2, bulanpun diambilin, gunungpun didaki, lautpun disebrangi, jantungpun ditato..
Gue selalu setuju kalo kawin jangan buru-buru., daripada menyesal, kenalin dulu tuh calon, paling oke kalo temenen dulu. Banyak yang gak setuju sih soal temenan. Padahal kan dari temenan baru bisa ketauan jabrik2nya kan., kalo orang pendekatan kan keliatan bagus2nya doangan, jadi gak gitu ketauan kualitas bajakan atau asli. Cuman itu pendapat gue yang gak pernah nganggap serius orang yang bukan-temen-langsung-pendekatan dan gak percaya sama cinta pada pandangan pertama. Huhahahaha, jadi mungkin gak valid.
Itu kali, makanya susah untuk menempatkan diri pada sepatu orang laen. Tanya gue, Cinta pada pandangan pertama? Di- Dukun -in kali’’.....
Selaen repot2 soal kawin, soal anak, orang juga pada suka gak ngerti kenapa ada yang belom siap atau nunda dulu dsb dsb. Gua aja bisa, mereka aja bisa, itu yang sering gue denger. Ingat biological clock, Kawin, terusannya ya punya anak.. Bla bla bla..,
Untungnya didunia temen2 gue banyak yang ngerti soal Belom Siap. Apa sih yang susah dimengerti? Perasaan cuman dua kata. Tapi dua kata itu perlu penjelasan panjang lebar dan cuman orang yang bisa ngerti posisi yang bersangkutan yang bisa ngerti. Jadi sekarang gue males repot2 jelasin, percuma, frekwensinya laen, prinsipnya laen, sepatunya laen.
Soal yang rese, juga soal kerjaan. Gue paling pusing kalo orang mulai komentar soal kerjaan, kenapa gue harus stuck disini, dengan gaji segini, kenapa ini, kenapa itu. Satu hal udah jelas, visi dan misi kita beda, background and keinginan beda, level comfort dan ambisi beda. Apa yang elo kejar2 dan elo suka belom tentu gue suka toh? Kalo dulu gue ladenin demi sopan santun, sekarang gue mulai sebel. Kalo katanya bermaksud baek, kok maksa? Yang gue maksud disini tuh orang2 yang agak ekstrim, bukan yang sekedar berdebat sore-sore soal masa depan dan kerjaan, tapi ama orang yang menentu2kan shoulda coulda woulda nya gue dengan semangat yang gak ada matinya gak peduli interupsi dan gak mungkin ada pendapat yang bener selaen pendapat mereka.
Gak maen-maen, gue sebel dibikin berasa bego dan gak worth it dan gak berjuang dsb dsb. Gue pernah down berat gara2 dicekokin ‘filsafat’ gitu-gituan, trus gue mikir, usia segini (ceeehh) gue gak butuh orang yang bikin gue down, perasaan hidup itu udah cukup ribet. Gue butuh temen2 yang bisa bikin gue tertawa dan merasa senang hidup, mungkin udah saatnya gue milih-milih dikit kalo gue gak pengen deket2 orang yang bikin gue down, kasarnya, ngabish-ngabishin waktu gue aja, kalo mau pidato satu arah, ke lapangan sana. Ujan-ujanan.
Doooh. Lagi sakit pinggang neh. Malu-maluin aja banyak janji ama chiropractic. Kunjungan pertama, balik2 menjadi2, merambat ke lutut segala.., encok kali ya.. huh..
Malesh nyari quote, ini satu yang gue inget dari pilem :
“Please! Don’t eat me! I have wife and children.
Eat Them.”
- Homer Simpson
Masalah popular orang-orang seumuran gue yang masih menggantung-gantung di jembatan sekitar Tiga Puluh rata2 nyaris2 sama, Kerjaan, Kawin dan Anak.
Gue banyak menemui kalo ternyata sekarang banyak konsep baru soal kawin, gak jauh2, dari kalangan orang2 yang gue kenal.
Kawin? Ogah.
Kenapa? Ada berbagai alasan.
Ada satu yang sangat gue setujui. Ngapain kawin kalo belom ketemu orang yang cocok, atau yang sesuai dengan apa yang kita dambakan?
Sering kali gue denger, sering banget malah, kalo ada orang yang bilang,” Udahh...loe aja yang terlalu pemilih. Gak usah terlalu cerewet..bla blah..”
Tapi kenapa gak boleh cerewet? Justru menurut gue aneh juga orang yang gak cerewet kalo milih pasangan. Tuh mahluk bakalan nongol di samping loe ampe bertahun-tahun kedepan, saweran nasi, bagi2 senyum dan air mata. Kalo orangnya gak cocok, kan penderitaan seumur hidup namanya toh! Apa salahnya hati2..tul gak..
Dari orang-orang, gue dapet banyak alasan, ada yang bilang mau nyari pasangan yang gak keberatan dia berbakti sama orang tua, ada pula yang bilang mau nyari pasangan yang enak diliat dsb dsb. Alasan2nya emang ada yang sangat masuk akal, ada pula yang bisa diperdebatkan. Tapi semua itu balik ke “Mau-mau gue..yang kawin gue...”
Ada pula yang bilang, kapok. Semua cewek yang gue ketemuin ngincernya duit gue doang. Mendingan gue membujang seumur-umur. Emang sih kasihan nih merek satu kalo gak ada yang bermutu dari dia selaen duit, atau mutu2 yang ada tertutup sama duit-duitan.
Ada pula cewek yang bilang semua cowok tengik. Tapi sejauh ini gue belom pernah ketemu cewek yang give up kawin atau berniat give up kawin, sejauh ini ketemunya cowok2 melulu, sebrengsek itukah kaum kita ampe disumpahin putus seumur-umuran? Hehehe...
Alasan laen, ada yang bilang, gak butuh, ngerepotin aja, nambah2in pikiran, atau punya cewek susah maintainnya, kudu nelpon, kudu ingat tanggal2 ajaib, kudu ngeraya-rayain hari2 gak jelas, pokoknya punya cewek menuntut semua energi jiwa dan raga dan pengennya dicurahkan buat membangun karir. Kalo yang kayak gitu, gue sih mikirnya belom kaliiii..belom kena cubit Cupid beneran, kalo udah kena, kata orang2, bulanpun diambilin, gunungpun didaki, lautpun disebrangi, jantungpun ditato..
Gue selalu setuju kalo kawin jangan buru-buru., daripada menyesal, kenalin dulu tuh calon, paling oke kalo temenen dulu. Banyak yang gak setuju sih soal temenan. Padahal kan dari temenan baru bisa ketauan jabrik2nya kan., kalo orang pendekatan kan keliatan bagus2nya doangan, jadi gak gitu ketauan kualitas bajakan atau asli. Cuman itu pendapat gue yang gak pernah nganggap serius orang yang bukan-temen-langsung-pendekatan dan gak percaya sama cinta pada pandangan pertama. Huhahahaha, jadi mungkin gak valid.
Itu kali, makanya susah untuk menempatkan diri pada sepatu orang laen. Tanya gue, Cinta pada pandangan pertama? Di- Dukun -in kali’’.....
Selaen repot2 soal kawin, soal anak, orang juga pada suka gak ngerti kenapa ada yang belom siap atau nunda dulu dsb dsb. Gua aja bisa, mereka aja bisa, itu yang sering gue denger. Ingat biological clock, Kawin, terusannya ya punya anak.. Bla bla bla..,
Untungnya didunia temen2 gue banyak yang ngerti soal Belom Siap. Apa sih yang susah dimengerti? Perasaan cuman dua kata. Tapi dua kata itu perlu penjelasan panjang lebar dan cuman orang yang bisa ngerti posisi yang bersangkutan yang bisa ngerti. Jadi sekarang gue males repot2 jelasin, percuma, frekwensinya laen, prinsipnya laen, sepatunya laen.
Soal yang rese, juga soal kerjaan. Gue paling pusing kalo orang mulai komentar soal kerjaan, kenapa gue harus stuck disini, dengan gaji segini, kenapa ini, kenapa itu. Satu hal udah jelas, visi dan misi kita beda, background and keinginan beda, level comfort dan ambisi beda. Apa yang elo kejar2 dan elo suka belom tentu gue suka toh? Kalo dulu gue ladenin demi sopan santun, sekarang gue mulai sebel. Kalo katanya bermaksud baek, kok maksa? Yang gue maksud disini tuh orang2 yang agak ekstrim, bukan yang sekedar berdebat sore-sore soal masa depan dan kerjaan, tapi ama orang yang menentu2kan shoulda coulda woulda nya gue dengan semangat yang gak ada matinya gak peduli interupsi dan gak mungkin ada pendapat yang bener selaen pendapat mereka.
Gak maen-maen, gue sebel dibikin berasa bego dan gak worth it dan gak berjuang dsb dsb. Gue pernah down berat gara2 dicekokin ‘filsafat’ gitu-gituan, trus gue mikir, usia segini (ceeehh) gue gak butuh orang yang bikin gue down, perasaan hidup itu udah cukup ribet. Gue butuh temen2 yang bisa bikin gue tertawa dan merasa senang hidup, mungkin udah saatnya gue milih-milih dikit kalo gue gak pengen deket2 orang yang bikin gue down, kasarnya, ngabish-ngabishin waktu gue aja, kalo mau pidato satu arah, ke lapangan sana. Ujan-ujanan.
Doooh. Lagi sakit pinggang neh. Malu-maluin aja banyak janji ama chiropractic. Kunjungan pertama, balik2 menjadi2, merambat ke lutut segala.., encok kali ya.. huh..
Malesh nyari quote, ini satu yang gue inget dari pilem :
“Please! Don’t eat me! I have wife and children.
Eat Them.”
- Homer Simpson
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