Two Great Advices

I’ve learned two things from my lecturers. These two things are very relevant and important in life that I still remember it while I have forgotten all the subjects I have passed. Lecturers are smart people, although not every lecturer is, but most of them are smarter than average people and some are extremely smart.

So these are the two things I want to share:
1. Always prepare to go.
One lecturer told us that we have to prepare to move on even before we settle down. He was talking about job and office. Anytime, anywhere, if you need to leave, leave. If your boss asks you to leave or if you want to leave, make sure you can grab everything in one go. Don’t drag. Don’t look back. Don’t take days to pack up your things. Nothing is forever. I think it’s a very good advice, what he means is deeper than personal physical things.

2. Be nice to your enemy.
This lecturer told us that no matter how mad he is to a person, he always comes and greets the person with a smile. He said, I don’t want to be stress by this person. Why I still greet him everyday, is so that he would be the one who feels the stress, annoyed, not me. Not only I want to see him stress, I want him to drop dead! Because he must be very upset I keep smiling at him, nothing he do can bring me down. Not only morning, at night, I still find time to greet him good night.
Mhahahaha.. I really love this one.

So to say, we really should learn from those who have been around very long.




Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.
- Oscar Wilde

Do not hit at all if it can be avoided, but never hit softly.
- Theodore Roosevelt


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Yellow Ribbon Project

The Yellow Ribbon Project is about second chances for ex-offenders.
September is the month dedicated for social campaign Yellow Ribbon Project.


Tie a Yellow Ribbon
(Tony Orlando and Dawn)


I'm comin' home, I've done my time
Now I've got to know what is and isn't mine
If you received my letter tellin' you I'd soon be free
Then you'll know just what to do if you still want me
If you still want me

Tie a yellow ribbon round the old oak tree
It's been three long years, do you still want me
If I don't see a ribbon round the old oak tree
I'll stay on the bus, forget about us, put the blame on me
If I don't see a yellow ribbon round the old oak tree

Bus driver please look for me
'Cause I couldn't bear to see what I might see
I'm really still in prison and my love she holds the key
A simple yellow ribbon's what I need to set me free
I wrote and told her please

Now the whole damn bus is cheerin' and I can't believe I see
A hundred yellow ribbons 'round the old oak tree

Lantern Festival

On Saturday after class, me, Mom and my brother went to the Lantern Festival in Chinese Garden as mid autumn spring is almost going to the end. Since I brought Mom there three years ago, she likes it very much and it has becomes yearly visit. Hubby had been busy with his work so he rested at home and Dad went out with his friends. My youngest brother has officially moved here. This year the price goes up 50%, you see.. the tax goes up 2% only, but everything else goes up as they wish..

Anyway, it is nicer than last year, although it still doesn’t worth the price hike. The theme is underwater I suppose, and they explore quite a lot of species, including what I think as frogfish hehe…

There are new editions, wishing floating flower and wishing tree. Set aside all practical thought, we floated a flower and threw a wishing gold coin to the tree together with hundreds of other people. Good wishes and and well wishes are always needed.

There is also getai performance although we skipped it because the weather was very humid and there were human everywhere. It’s almost as cramp as Orchard Road, if not more. But everyone looked happy, so did us. Children paying with lantern and small fire work, and everyone appreciated the art of the lanterns. It's beautiful.

So it’s not bad at all.

Floating Wish




Wishing Coins

The Last Week

I haven’t written crappy whinny long post for some time. There are too many things happening this and last month. Happy, sad, happy, sad, sad, sad…Luckily, in between crappy moments, somebody always make me smile again, hubby, good friend, lost friend, new friend, not so new friend, hidden friend.. blah blah you know what I mean.

Five months into my study, I still survive. Studying something that doesn’t related to my background and in language that I’m not academically familiar with, I was skeptical at first. But so far the result has been very very good, looks like I’m quite expert in bullshitting, I had never get so good results before in my previous school history. But I have to admit, writing blog, talking crap like this actually helps me in school, ha…at least I learn to think fast. Right or wrong, understand or not, get idea or not, just writeeee… tancap terus….yihaaaaaaaaaa..

Next week would be my last week in my current office. After working for five years here, it’s definitely not an easy decision to make. I tried to exit a year ago, I was surprised that two bosses of mine actually spent a lot of time talking me out of that idea. Fair enough, I gave it another try. But human is human, company is company, principle is principle. Wise man says, damage has been done. I’ve never looked at things the same way again.

I thought I have outgrown my stubbornness. I haven’t, although I would stand here to defend my stubbornness and why I’m being stubborn (this is how a stubborn person talks).
I wanted to stay in the company at least until I finish my study, oh I was pretty sure, I need to stay to finance my study. But I can’t close my eyes to certain things I don’t approve, and every signs of thing dropping further into the drain are very clear. The stupidest reason that I believe but maybe no one else will look at it the same way, I saw a person that I admire changes. It breaks me. I used to hold up so much respect for that person but slowly and sure, I see how the environment washes it out. And I don’t want to be like that one day.

I want to exit when it still high, I want to leave the door when everyone is still smiling and remember it as the way it is. I don’t want to lose my respect and my principle.

As I said, It was a very difficult decision. It’s like the second home to me, surgically attached. This morning when I walked to the office, I was tracing the path that I have been walking for five years plus, I don’t really remember mornings with bad mood, I remember being happy here, that’s what I’m keeping but I’m sad because it’s something so nice that I’m going to leave. But the another thing whacked my head, because it’s not nice anymore that I leave.

My mood is swinging like this for about one and a half month. One second, I was happy and jumping that I want to say bubye to all the things that makes me unhappy, the other second I was so sad when I remember the good things I have here. I had never need to visit toilet so often in my five years when the bad habit of girls is kicking. Together with other incident in family, I had no idea that I could be that sad.

But things are funny in their own way. So many people had talked to me since then. Some comes like angels in disguise, at the right time and the right place when my mood was so crappy I could only sit and did nothing. From those close friends until those I never imagined of. One guy in office bumped into me, as usual, we checked on each other. He was very surprised when he found out and he said, It’s very sad.. I’m losing another good friend..” All my time here I have mostly only exchanged hello and goodbye although he sat some cubicle away from me only about a year.

Another one I am not even sure what his name (chinese name., it's complicated!) bumped into me also, he said, "I heard you are leaving, is that true?" Then: "Aiyah...! Why all pretty girls are leaving. left those aunties...etc etc etc" Kekekekeke.... I'm not the one saying..don't puke on me!

Today, I got phone call from my best friend miles away. I was so happy to hear his voice from the phone, although we didn’t have enough time to update each other news at all except making fun and jokes on each other. But it came like a message telling me, if a person doesn’t change, regardless how far you go, you and me can be still the same.

So I’m alright, I’m actually feel very okay this week after coming back from Tioman. But as the time come near, I have flashbacks. But I have many angels surround me, so it’s fine.

To my relieve, I can still respect ‘this’ person. I come to realize something, he doesn’t want to change, but the environment tries to change him. We actually found out a year ago that we have so much things in common, we hold the same principle and same way to view life. I had my doubt for very long, but I’m glad that he still the same.

So now, facing my other challenges. How do I survive after this…?
I was very scared.
But now, I think I will survive somehow.

We do not see things as they are.
We see them as we are.
- The Talmud

Sorrow remembered sweeten present joy.
- Robert Pollok

The heart has its reason, of which the mind knows nothing.
- Blaise Pascal



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Tioman Weekend

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Shoulder to Cry On

When I was a kid, everything seems remediable, everything seems answerable. Every chaos in life is almost always short lived.
I dropped coin, I got it replaced. I would still cry over it, but when thinking back, I laughed at it. If I got bullied by friend, I hit them back; they must end up apologizing or regretful. World was perfect, everything has black and white answer, right or wrong things are obvious.

Now I must say, adult world is not that fun, adult world is not as simple. So they must stop pulling out tree and destroying the sea, because there are so many adults who need those places to chill out and wind out. Nature is one of the remedy. Because sometimes in ideal world we can’t find the right answer, we can’t find the right remedy; we can’t find the right feelings to express. Sometimes the burdens are piled up above the neck and chock you up. Unlike children’s tears, adult’s are bitter. We don’t cry over spilt milk or dropped candy, but when an adult shed a tear, it accumulates from the bitterness felt inside the veins and it’s serious matter..

So don’t take out the tree, because we need it to shelter us, we need the green color to remind us of beauty, we need the fresh wind breezing through it to calm the nerve. Please reserve the sea, for we can dive down and let go the burden of the soul, for we can look out at the sky and feel the freedom of spirit in the air....

But remember, even in adult’s life, there is always a cure, and it’s always organic..
Nature and Shoulder to Cry On.



Who, save the god, can be happy all life long?
- Aeschylus

In the child happiness dances; in the man, at most, it only smiles or weeps.
- Jean Paul Richter

Happiness is good health and a bad memory.
- Ingrid Bergman