I read an article this morning about mothers who buy dolls that resemble babies. The dolls are so well made that it looks very realistic, even the material used can be closely associated with flesh textures.
They spend good money buying the dolls, dress them in clothes, shoes, and interacting with them as if they are real babies. Some psychologists say it might be unhealthy as they might become obsessed or having difficulty of understanding what is real and what is not for long term, especially those who are doing it not for hobby, but as some kind of replacement of their lost loved ones.
I was reading the article, all the while thinking that it’s such not a good idea for a product that can affect human in so emotional way, and how cruel it is that people get attached to it because it reminded them of their lost loved ones. I think everyone can relate a lot or a bit that it’s much more difficult to move on if we are clinging to something that reminded us to the things we had that we already lost. It’s difficult the way it is, let alone looking at the reminder every day, every moment.
It could be true that time probably heals, that someday the reminders are probably there to make you smile because of the good things in memory after you get over the tears of losing them. That is the line when we already crossing over, moving on.
But what about this, can they move on? Would reality become confusing?
Then it hit me on the last paragraph. One person defended themselves saying (not in exact quote) that she is well aware of what it’s real and what is not, it’s just nice to have something like that because she feels safe that the baby will always be healthy, don’t fall sick and won’t die…
The last sentence smacked me in the head. Yes, it’s such a simple wish, such a simple dream but yet so difficult. From all human selfishness we could see around the world, genuine love is probably that one thing that saves the faith for everyone. How it is much more painful to see people you love suffer in sickness and we wish everything that is best for them.
Sniff.
